"Oh Mom, It Was So Easy."

Oprah, who happens to be one of my heroins and role models, share's a story of a dying son who's last words to his mother were, "Oh Mom, it was so easy." The son and mother had been suffering with his illness for one year until it overtook him. Yet he lets his mom know it was easy. I'd like to talk of two very powerful things this taught me about living.

For the living, we often think our life is too hard--or better yet, that we are too week. But regardless of how many times we wonder why us, we need to realize its not that hard. In other words, we need to realize how easy it is... if we only realize how strong WE are. And its not even about being optimistic, it is about being REALISTIC.

For years now, I have regretted greatly not trusting my mother with... me. I did not allow her to be the best friend of the real me. I never communicated to her as I really am, and I have truly and profoundly regretted that. Lamentably, I realized that after she died. I realized she would have been the only person to understand, accept and adequately support and befriend me. But today, that lamentation has changed.

As I heard Oprah say the words of the dying son, I heard them said in the voice of my mother, "Oh son, it was so easy." As I type this, I find myself crying tears of relief. I KNOW she is in this room with me. Madre, te quiero.

And my mother has told me, "Instead of living in regret for not having a better relationship with me, realize your problems are 'so easy.' BE happy! Realize your so-called problem is meant for your happiness. And most of all, realize it is so easy NOW--not in hindsight!"

Mother, it IS easy. :)